Updated: Jan 13, 2021
You both have decided to start a lifelong journey together. He proposed and she said yes.
Ladies, you are excited. Fellas, you are relieved and feel like the luckiest man in the world. The easy part is over (whew) and now this is where the important part starts.
Of course wedding planning will happen, but the focus should be marriage planning! You both have a lifetime ahead of you and remember what happens next is so important.
Take your time. The engagement period is so delicate, but so exciting.
Many couples have a tendency to tread lightly during this period and do anything to please one another to not raise any red flags as they scramble to wedding plan. It’s also time sensitive because of the “deadline” set (i.e. the wedding) to have everything in order by a certain date. But, despite this being the case, I urge you two to focus on what is important, pray together and pray hard.
Your faith will be tested as you prepare for marriage.
You may see or hear things you do not like, but it is up to you to determine the deal breakers.
As you maneuver through this period, be intentional about surrounding yourself with people who are happily married (mentor-ship), read material to provide sound and biblical insight on marriage, and learn together by attending events, listening to podcasts, and anything else that will help you prepare mentally, spiritually and emotionally for this ride.
Yes, I know you can’t fully prepare and some things can’t be taught, but preparation is imperative to establishing a strong foundation.
We encourage you to find a Christ-centered premarital class to attend together, which will get you headed in the right direction and provide tools on exceling in communication, intimacy, finances and many other topics that will come up throughout your journey. Remember, pre-marital counseling is just the beginning and you will have to commit to learn every day.
Also, start building a village, a community of people, that loves each of you, loves marriage, and genuinely supports your union-ship collectively.
Please know we are rooting for you along with thousands of other people that believe in the covenant of marriage!
Get ready to SHIFT and be transformed.