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Updated: Jan 2, 2021

The truth is you are not the only one struggling with your prayer life. Another truth is you have the desire to pray regularly and you understand the importance of prayer in your life as a believer of Christ, but just can’t seem to do it consistently. We have very busy lives today, and everything is presented as an urgent matter needing our attention. However, the Lenten season is an opportune time to talk to God and hear what He has to say concerning your life, marriage, family, the world, His people, and other matters.

We are here to remind you that Rome was not built in a day. We want to encourage you to start small. We believe in the power of small victories. For example, you can start with three times a week, the first five minutes after you wake up on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Or perhaps you can get an accountability partner who desires to get the prayer life off the ground or someone who is seasoned to push you and pray with them once a week. However, to be successful with this, like any other goal in life, you have to be intentional and you will have to force yourself to follow through, especially on the days you least feel like it.

Below, we offer three nuggets to get you started and to lead you to the point that you enjoy this access and fellowship with the God who created the seen and unseen.

1. Make it a sacred time

We found that it helps us tremendously when we pause and consider for a moment who we are about to approach. Don’t just jump into making your petition before the most high. Instead, think about His majesty, His holiness, imagine Him sitting high and exalted on His throne. Then, consider His love, grace and goodness towards you. These thoughts will put your heart in a proper state of adoration. Additionally, this should make you feel small and allow our perspective of Him to grow. This will allow you to confidently lay your petitions before His throne.

2. Make it specific

Charles Spurgeon has a sermon on prayer, and in that sermon, he gives an analogy of one of us being summoned before a king or queen. With such an occasion, we will do our utmost to ensure we prepare for the moment that we are asked, ‘what can I do for you?’ Now imagine gaining the audience of the almighty, most sovereign God. Shouldn’t we approach His throne with clarity in our minds on what we are to request from Him? Know what you want and don’t beat around the bush. Ask for what you desire.

3. Be yourself

We all know the prayer saints that when they open their mouths they take us a step closer to hearing how angels sound. These saints make prayer sound like poetry with how they precisely string words together. The good news is God is not more impressed with your ability to string words together than the sincerity of your prayer. Talk how you talk. Don’t waste time thinking, “oh how do I best present this to God?” He will not be surprised to hear what’s in your heart.

The more these three become organic on how you approach your time with God, the more you will enjoy His company and the more He will reveal Himself to you as your relationship grows more intimate.

We pray that this blesses your life and we continue to give God all the glory for allowing us to serve.

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About Marissa & Joseph

Joseph and Marissa Msefya have been together for 11 years and married for 7. They are millennial parents, Certified Marriage Coaches, published authors and the Founders of Forever Marriages. They help millennial husbands and wives desiring oneness, build lifelong Christ-centered marriages.

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