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How Momcations Help Me Become A Better Wife

Updated: Nov 29, 2021

In late 2020, my husband came up with the best idea - for me to take 2 days away by myself at a nice hotel baby free. He got major points for that because the idea was genius and he once again was putting my needs in front of his own.

I realized that mom-cations is what was missing in my life after almost a year in the pandemic with a 1 year old and running a business at home. I needed an escape or more so a change in scenery.

What is a momcation?

When I tell feel wives that I am doing a momcation they looked puzzled so I'm here to make it well known! A momcation is a designated time away from your kid(s). I've done three since my 2020 stay at the Kimpton Hotel in Alexandria, VA but this past one at Well Spring Manor takes the win. The top priority for me is rest and good food!

They went above and beyond for my one night stay (see the pick of the lavender oil). The plentiful hors d'oeuvres, the complimentary beverage and snacks, the modern, luxury feel, 2 course breakfast, the art galley.... everything was just so GOOD!

If you aren't local, it's worth a trip.

Why momcations?

For me...

1. Being away helped me rest and when I am rested I am refreshed. I come back home feeling like a brand new person who has more capacity to love on my family!

2. Rest is a form of self care and it gives you the boost you need. With rest, I have more patience and more energy for my family and other moms tell me the same!

3. Doing what I want to do for 24hrs without interruption helps me think clearly. I'm able to recall some of those past conversations between me and my husband and just be in my thoughts.

3. I feel a great sense of appreciation and that yields gratitude. So I'm overall a happier person and being human it creates this desire to want to do something nice for my husband. The cycle continues and the marriage is rewarded.

On this last momcation, I came home feeling so relaxed because I slept well, ate well and made sure to fill my love tank with worship music, friendly people and treating myself to a few items I've been wanting to buy.

Other ideas

Your momcation may look different. If you are reading this like, B&Bs are not my thing, below i listed some more ideas:

  • Body Massage

  • Taking yourself to lunch

  • Doing your favorite hobby

  • Shopping

  • Sign up for a fitness class

  • Unplug for 12 hours

  • Music concert

A combo of any of these work!

Regardless of what you do, the point is to have a great time! If this is something you haven't tried yet but desire to, start the conversation with your husband to see when the best time to do one. You probably won't have to do too much convincing because this time to yourself is guaranteed to restore passion back to your marriage and keep the flame lit.

Have you done a momcation? How do you feel this type of break will benefit you as a wife and person overall?

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About Marissa & Joseph

Joseph and Marissa Msefya have been together for 11 years and married for 7. They are millennial parents, Certified Marriage Coaches, published authors and the Founders of Forever Marriages. They help millennial husbands and wives desiring oneness, build lifelong Christ-centered marriages.

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